There is no reason to be so defensive. Knowledge does not come easy and very often the resistance to new ideas prevents advancement. Nobody has it all figured out and if they come across as if they do, they are probably more lost than you. Humility is a vital step toward growth. The question becomes: how teachable are you?
“Half of the people can be part right all of the time. Some of the people can be all right part of the time. But all of the people can’t be all right all of the time.” Dylan misquoted Lincoln and many others, but there’s nothing wrong with that. We can still carry messages to each other, not say it the exact way it was meant to be said, and manage to share the idea effectively. Sure, an argument should be sound and as close to perfection as possible to stand up to scrutiny. However if you look close, you’ll always find imperfection. Nothing ever is perfect and by dismissing things beneath unrealistic standards, there will be no progress. After all, even the sloppy points, if taken together, manage to lead to great results. Measures of success vary on so many levels. We have to make do with what we have in front of us and not lament our perceived limitations.
Some people refuse to acknowledge any of these points and have grown within a sheltered existence where they are never wrong. Avoid these people at all cost. They are unlikely to change and it is not your business to try to change them. Never take anything personally from these types when chance does bring them across your path. There literally is not enough time to convince these people how they are wrong. And remember, they may be part right some of the time, which only strengthens their resolve to be proud. They are not at fault. Parenting may have something to do with it, but I’m not psychoanalyst.
Instead of fixating on others, think of what can be done with what you have at the moment. Take some beach wood and create a goofy looking structure in the middle of winter. Do something unexpected. Be different. Creating something original is far more interesting than attempting to draw a perfect circle freehand. Conduct a self-analysis and figure where your performances may need improvement. The thing is, the only way to figure all this out is to act out, to live it out. There is a great chance that everything needs improvement, so take another look whenever you sense all is well. When it feels like others are to blame, take a look at yourself. It is the only way to move forward.
“This is going to be the best stage you will ever have to do your number. Never mind all that reflection. Let’s see who we are. Let’s turn the thing on and write as it’ll go and see what kind of shadow we cast.” – Ken Kesey